Dar bayoni nikoh kardan

Dar bayoni nikoh kardan

Aknun, ey barodar va khohari aziz, bidon, ki zan giriftan va shavhar kardan niz az muhimoti islom ast. Binobar in say kardan lozim ast, ki badi ba balogat rasidan in amri muhimro ba jo ovari. Agar inro ba jo nayori, khavfi on boshad, ki turo nafsu shayton az roh barovarda, ba sui zino, ki gunohi buzurg ast, dalolat kunand.

Hazrati paygambar salallohu alayhi va sallam farmudand, ki nikoh sunnati manast har ki mayl nakunad, dar sunnati man az man nest. Dar nikoh kardan va zan khostan boyad, ki niyati havoi nafs nakunad, balki niyati on kunad, ki nisfi dini vay dar devori amn daroyad va digar boyad, ki dar nikoh niyati farzand kunad va az Hak taolo farzandi soleh talab kunad. Rasuli akram salallohu alayhi va sallam farmudand: zani dindorro ikhtiyor boyad kard, to tavongarii din va dunyo yobi. Dunyo matoe ast va behtarnn matoi dunyo zani soleha ast. Pas mard boyad, ki zani soleha va dindor ikhtiyor kunad, ki nemati zohir farzandi soleh ast va nemati botin zani soleha va farmonbardor.

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Zani bad dar saroi mardi naku,

Ham dar in olam ast duzakhi u.

 

Zan ham boyad, ki mardi dindor va parhezgoru bo amonatro shavhar kunad va az darveshii shavhar nanolad va ba shavhari fosiq rozi nashavad va bo ahli sharru fasod nikoh nakunad, agarchi sohibi mol boshand, ki on mol ba haqiqat mor ast. Har zane, ki rozi shavad ba nikohi shavhari fosiq, dar qiyomat az gur barkhezad miyoni du chashmi vay navishta shuda ast, ki in zan navmed ast az rahmati Hudovandi taolo.

Fosiq shakhsi benamoz va az rohi shariat durro guyand.

Rasul salallohu alayhi va sallam farmudand: bidoned va ogoh boshed, ki har kas shafoati man khohad, dukhtari khudro ba shavhari fosiq nadihad, ba hej ru.

Hikoyat. Ovardaand, ki hazrati Ali karamallohu vajha ruze hamrohi Fotima raziyallohu anho nazdi Rasuli akram salallohu alayhi va sallam omadand, ki paygambari Hudo salallohu alayhi va sallam ba girya mashguland. Pursidand, ki yo Rasulalloh, baroi chi girya mekuned? Hazrati Rasuli akram salallohu alayhi va sallam guftand: shabi meroj guruhe az zanonro didam, ki ba azobhoi gunogun giriftor budand, khotiram ba onho mashgul gardida, girya ba man golib gardid.

Pursidem, ki yo Rasulalloh, ba chi sabab on-zanho ba azob giriftorand? Rasuli akram salallohu alayhi va sallam guftand: zanero didam az mui on muallaq ovekhtaand, ki az dimogi on chirk ravon ast va zanero didam, ki az zaboni on ovekhta va dasthoi uro az pusht barovardaaid va az halqi on chirki siyoh ravon ast va zanero didam, ki az pistoni u ovekhtaand va piston az pushti u baromada va ba dahoni u az zakum merekhtand. Va zanero didam, ki dastu poi uro ba mui peshonii u basta va moru kajdumhoro bo u ovekhtaand, ki jasadi uro mekhurand va az tahti on zan otash alanga mezad va zanero didam, ki ba miqrozi otashin badani uro meburidand va zanero didam, ki ruyash siyokh gashta. On zan rudahoi khudro mekhurd. Va zanero didam kuru karu gung bud, ki dar sanduqi otashin azobash medodand va az dahonu bini va makhraji poyoni on otash favvora mezad va on zan pes bud, ki az bui badi on toqati didan nabud. Va zanero didam, ki sari u misli khuk va badani u misli markab ba hazor-hazor anvoi azob girifgor bud. Va zanero didam, ki ba surati sag moru kajdumoni bisyor az dahoni u daromada az makhraji poyoni u mebaromadand va farishtagon uro ba harbai otashin mezadand.

Hazrati Fotima raziyallohu anho az joi khud barkhosta guftand: yo padari buzurgvor, jonam fidoi shumo bod. Az amoli on zanon maro khabar dihed. Rasuli akram salallokhu alaykhi va sallam guftand: ey nuri chashmi man Fotima, on zane, ki ba muyash muallaq ovekhtaand, mui khudro az nomahramon pinhon nakarda ast va on zane, ki az zaboni u ovekhtaand, shavhari khudro ba zaboni bad ozor dodaast va on zane, ki az pistoni u ovekhtaand, be ijozati shavhari khud farzandoni digarro shir dodaast. Va on zane, ki az dastu poi u ovekhtaand be rizoi shavhar az khona baromada ba joe raftaast. On zane, ki gushti badani khudro mekhurd va az daruni u otash favvora mezad, khudro dar nazari nomahramon zinat doda az mardoni begona khudro pinhon nakardaast. On zane, ki chasadi uro ba mikrozi otashin meburidand az baroi shuhrat yoftan khudashro ba liboshoi fokhira orosta, ba kuchaho guzashtaast, to mardumon uro tamosho kunand. On zanero, ki dastu poi uro ba mui peshonii u basta budand va moru kajdumon zahr zada azob mekardand, zane boshad, ki bo vuchudi tandurusti namoz nakhonad va ruza nadorad va az chanobat khudro pok nakunad. On zane, ki sarash misli khuk va jasadash misli markab boshad, zani sukhanchinu durugguest. On zane, ki ruyash siyokh gashga rudahoi khudro mekhurad, zanest, ki az pushti shavkhari khud ba har kas shikoyat kunad. On zane, ki kuru karu gungu pes bud az  dakhonu binni u otash favvora mezad, moli shavhari khudro be rizoi u sarf karda, gaybati shavhari khudro mekard. On zane, ki ba surati sag bud, ba shavhari khud nofarmoni karda, sukhanhoi durusht meguft.

Rasuli akram salallohu alayhi va sallam farmudand: har zane, ki shavhari khudro ba zabon ozor rasonad, Alloh taolo ruzi kiyomat zaboni uro haftod ziro gardonida. ba gardanash pechonad va hamai farishtagon va odamiyon bar on zan lanat kunand. Har zane, ki ba shavhari khud guyad: man az tu hej chize nadidaam. Alloh taolo haftodsola ibodati uro habata gardonad, agarchi on zan tamomi umr ruza doshta boshadu shab namoz guzorida boshad. Har zane, ki shavhari khudro az vajhi nafaka gamgin sozad yo kulfat rasonad, Allokh taolo namozu ruzai uro qabul nakunad. Har zane, ki be ijozati shavhari khud az khona baroyad, to boz ba khona gashta omadani u, tamomi makhlukoti osmonu zamni bo on zan lanat firistonand. Har zane, ki khudro zinnatu khushbuy karda az darvozai khud berun baroyad va shavhari u ba on rozi boshad, Allokh taolo dar har kadami u ba shavharash khonae az otash bino kunad va ba azob giriftorash kunad.

Farmudand Rasuli akram salallohu alayhi va sallam: har marde, ki zani khudro dar bistari khob talab kunad va on zan qabul nakarda, ba bistari u naoyad va mard dar gazab oyad, farishtagon to subh bar on zan lanat firistonand.

Mard boyad zani khudro ilmu adab va shariat biyomuzad va agar kutohi kunad, khatari on boshad, ki dar okhirat har du ba azob darmonand va az bisyorii farzandon nanoland, ki ruzii onhoro Hudoi taolo medihad. Rasuli akram salallohu alayhi va sallam farmudand, ki behtarin zan on ast, ki agar shavhar ba sui vay nazar kunad, on zan sari khudro dar pesh andozad va agar shavhar ba kore amr kunad, itoat kunad shavharro. Agar shavhar goib boshad, moli shavharro

muhofizat kunad va khudro az chashmi nomahram i nigoh dorad.

Rasuli akram salallohu alayhi va sallam farmudand: har zane ki panch vaqt namozro khonad va ruzai mohi sharifi ramazonro dorad va khudro az nomahramon muhofizat kunad va shavharro farmonbardori kunad, az kadom darvozai bihisht, ki khohad daroyad.

Rasuli akram salallohu alayhi va sallam farmudaand: yak zani soliha behtar ast az hazor mardi gayri solih va har zane, ki khizmati shavhari khudro ba jo orad va uro farmonbardori kunad, haft dari duzakh ba rui on zan basta gardad va hasht dari bihisht ba rui vay kushoda shavad va behisob dokhili bihisht gardad.

Hikoyat. Ovardaand, ki dar zamoni paygambar salallohu alayhi va sallam marde bud,  ba jang raft va ba zani khud guft: to omadani man az khona ba joe naravi. Bad az raftani on mard padari on zan bemor shuda, az baroi didani dukhtar kas firistod. On zani soliha guft: maro shavhar ijozati berun baromadan nadodaasg.

Heshoni u nazdi Rasul salallohu alayhi va sallam rafta davo kardand. Rasul sallallohu alayhi va sallam bo on zan kas firistod.

On zan guft: man itoati shavharro ba jo oram, az khona berun naravam.

Pas padari on zan darguzasht, kas firistodand, naaraft, to vaqte ki shavharash naomad, az khona nabaromad Ba paygambar salallohu alayhi va sallam vahi omad, ki az baroi farmonbardorii shavhari khud on zanro magfirat karda, gunohoni u va gunohoni padari favtidai uro darguzashtam.

Rasuli akram salallohu alayhi va sallam farmudaand: har zane, ki libosi shavhari khudro shusta, pokiza kunad, Alloh taolo bo on zan  hazor savob ato karda, hazor gunohi uro bakhshad va hazor darajai neki uro ato farmoyad.

Ovardaand, ki ruze hazrati Fotima raziyallohu anho nazdi Rasuli akram salallohu alayhi va sallam giryakunon omad, ki rangash tagyir yofta, zard gashta bud. Rasuli akram sallallohu alayhi va sallam pursidand, ki ey dukhtari man, chi holat turo voqe shudaast?

Hotuni qiyomat guftand:  Rasulalloh, hamrohi Murtazo Ali karamallohu vajha shukhi mekardam. Az sukhani man Ali raziyallohu anhu dar gazab gardida khost, ki az khona baroyad, man az on sukhan pushaymon shuda guftam: ey habibi man, dar vaqti mazokhu shukhi nadonista turo dar gazab ovardam, az on pushaymon shudam, az man rozi bosh, – gufta haft martaba uro az cap gardonidam.

Az man rozi shuda ba rui man khandid, bo vujudi in az Alloh taolo tarsida, nazdi SHumo omadam.

Rasuli akram salallohu alayhi va sallam guftand: ey dukhtari man, savgand ba zoti poki Alloh taolo, ki ba rosti maro ba khalq firistodaast, agar haroyina pesh az rozi shudani shavharat vafot mekardi, janozai turo namekhondam. Ey dukhtari man, bidon az har zane, ki shavhar rozi boshad, Alloh taolo az on zan rozi va har zane, ki shavhar az on zan rozi naboshad, Alloh taolo az on zan rozi nest.

Ey dukhtari man, har zane, ki misli ibodati Maryam binti Umron ibodat doshta boshad, agar shavharash az u norozi boshad, on hama ibodati uro Alloh taolo qabul nakunad. Ey dukhtari man, behtarin amoli zanon farmonbardorii shavhar ast. Ey dukhtari man, har zane, ki yak soat hamrohi shavhari khud ba khushvakti hazlu mazokh karda shavhari khudro khursand kunad, az ibodati yaksola behtar boshad va savobi shahidonro daryobad.

Ey dukhtari man, har zane, ki ba sukhani khushu mahbubona dilraboi karda, shavhari khudro khursand kunad, yo farzandoni khudro khushvakt gardonad, Alloh taolo vojib gardonad ba on zan channatro va ato mekunad ba har khursandii onho baroyash shahre dar bihisht.

Paygambar sallallohu alayhi va sallam farmudand: har marde, ki du zan doshta boshad, dar bayni onho adl nakunad, dar nafaqa va khob kardan, dar taomu sharobu libos barobar nadorad, man bezoram az on mard. U az shafoati man benasib boshad, magar on hangome ki tavba kunad va adlro peshai khud sozad.

Bidon, ki khizmat kardani zanon mar shavharonro az vojiboti islom ast va khaqki shavhar bar zan bisyor ast. Paygambar sallallohu alayhi va sallam guftaand, ki ba gayri Hudo kasi digarro sajda kardan mumkin nest, agar mumkin mebud, man amr mekardam zanonro, ki shavharoni khudro sajda mekardand, az bisyorii haqqe, ki Hudoi taolo dodaast shavharonro bar zanon. Ammo farmonbardorii zan mar shavharro vakte vochib shavad, ki kore farmoyad, ki az huquqi zanoshavhari va huquqi shari boshad.